Marriage & Family
“Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough”
The thing about relationships these days is that due modern technology with cell phones, Skype, Instant Messaging- physical contact has already been minimized.
Living in the same city, people usually don’t make the effort to meet and spend time together as much as they used to. Relationships have taken a “digital” form with the whole hype about how “long-term-relationships-are-too-hard-too-handle” is all psychological than anything else. Everyone would say that relationships require a lot of work- when in fact there isn’t much to them. Essentially all that you require is patience and a sense of determination. The rest comes easy!
Let’s Talk About the Basics!
The first thing you need to know is how involved you both are and how much you’re willing to get involved. In every relationship, determination is the most important thing. With the right amount of determination, the most volatile of relationships turn magical. Long distance relationships are ten folds more important to be steadfast in your commitment. Talk this out with your partner and establish ground rules about your communication level since its the foundation of your relationship.
With Great Distances, Little Things Matter!
Nothing warms a person’s heart more than knowing that someone is out there in the world who is thinking about you. While there are miles between them, the little gestures come in handy. Write little notes via e-mail to them. A line or two about what you are doing, wearing or how your day went. Send them a small present of emotional significance, something that reminds you of them, a trinket to show that thoughts of them alone drove you to buy it. Plan little surprises like flowers, books, tickets to a play they might have mentioned, gift certificates to a store they might like. Try to visit each other as much as you can and spend as much time together whenever you are in the same town. Go on walks together or picnics and discuss things that have been going on in your life. It couldn’t be easier with a little effort to show your affection to them.
Take Problems Seriously!
Whenever problems arise, take them seriously. It can be anything from a misunderstanding to a family related issue. The thought you both need to realize is that communication is vital. Try your best to discuss your problems in person if you can visit speak face to face. Skype is another option since webcam chatting can express your concerns. Do not alarm each other by sending text messages or e-mails containing full blown details of the matter. This only creates an alarm and panic which can lead to irreconcilable problems later on. If it is an urgent issue, call each other up and talk it over. NEVER resort to text messages or e-mails for problems of great importance.
Remind Each Other Why!
Keep reminding yourself and the other person what they mean to you. Express it in small ways what they mean to you. Remember why you’ve stuck by them for so long. If you recall your affection and adoration for them, your heart will know all that there is to know. Remind yourself time and again why the relationship means to you what it does. There will be times when you both will be on the edge and would take it out on each other. Do not be alarmed. This is perfectly healthy and normal.
What’s not normal is holding grudges and not letting things go. Do not let ego stand between what you truly feel for them. Let the things that displease you go rather than blowing them out of proportion. Talk things out calmly when the storm blows over. Give each other peace of mind rather than taking away each other’s. In short cherish each other and the time you have together, whether it’s on video or voice calls, text messages or in person. Nothing matter more than spending time together.