Marriage & Family
They say a reader lives a thousand lives. It holds true for writers as well. This is because writers not only create but while they are creating they transform a little bit of themselves into a reflection of their creation.
Writers are the most intricate of beings. Their souls are woven with the threads of ambiguity and clarity at the same time. They are a unique specie on their own that requires a lot of patience and determination with a fierce sense of loyalty to understand them.
Explore Each Other’s Minds
Writers have burning desires to speak their mind- to discuss, to argue, to criticize and to validate each and everything they believe in. When your partner does this, do not become impatient. Talk things out, let them pick your mind because it’s vital for them to do this. They will eat, drink and breathe thoughts because that’s the fuel to their soul.
Give Them Breathing Space
Writers need peace of mind. There will be times when they won’t be emotionally or mentally present. In times like these, give them room to breathe. This is their way of pondering over things and setting their mind straight. They might seem to be dark and distant when in fact their mind is running continuously trying to fathom a million different feelings into words.
When you see them deep in thought, try not to interrupt them. Instead sit by them and occupy yourself with something. They will never tell you but your silent intimacy in such times would mean the world to them. They might disappear emotionally and mentally for a while but at the end of the day, it will be YOUR comfort they will seek.
Expect Overwhelming Affection
Writers provide an immense importance to detail. They will notice and observe the tiniest things about you. Do not get annoyed when they leave you little notes or tell you in elaborated ways what you mean to them. If they take time out to show their affection for you- be flattered, be VERY flattered.
A kind word or acknowledgement is more than enough for them to know that you appreciate their feelings. They might not be vocal about it but to them that is the worst blow of rejection.
Be Prepared for Dark Times!
As loving as your significant other can be, they can be volatile and disagreeable as times.
There might be times when there will be financial hurdles between you two. In such days, you need to remember that while love and loyalty doesn’t fill an empty stomach they sure do help to spend the days and nights together.
They might not care about material things, do not deem them foolish for this. It is just the way their mind works and the fact that for them values and emotions come first. There might be times when writer’s block would make them irritable- be patient. Do not hurry them or push them to meet deadlines. Whenever they are ready, talk to them about it calmly and ask them if there is something that is bothering them. Be firm and tell them that you understand their situation but that they need to be thoughtful about your feelings too. This will mollify them considerably and help you both form a deeper bond.
The last and most important thing you need to know is that if your significant other is a writer, you need to cherish every single moment because life will be more than just life with them. It will be a vortex of joy, gloom, bliss, equivocacy, radiance, brilliance all at once. Savor every last drop of it and everything else that they have to offer.